Spending our time (Enchendo Lingüiça)

I’m a great defender of quality time between parents and children. Specially after caring for kids who were not my own, I realized how much it meant for them to have that little moment together, whether listen to a bedtime story, help me prepare a snack or maybe watch a movie together.
About two weeks ago, I heard the following statement from a 10 year old boy whose parents are separated: “ My dad doesn’t spend time with me. Every time I spend a day with him, instead of talking or doing something with me, we go to the beach and he hangs out with the grown ups. It’s the same as nothing.”
I was devastated. Not only by the boy’s situation, but by his perception that even though he spends time with his dad, this time is badly used. This week I’ll suggest an activity for busy parents interested in creating “their moment” with their children while stimulating a very healthy habit: Reading.
It doesn’t matter how old your children are, books can be an excellent instrument for bonding with them. The little ones who can’t read by themselves yet, will certainly love to have stories read to them, especially if the parents get in the mood and make up different voices, point out details in the pictures and stimulate their children’s logical thinking with questions about the story.
The older ones might enjoy a longer book, read with the parents, a chapter every night.
The whole group might take turns reading and in picking the next book. I had a very rewarding experience while taking turns to read with Sebastian, one of the children I cared for in Germany. Whenever we read in German, he would get two pages and I (due to my horrible pronunciation) one. We could look up the meaning of a new word together in the dictionary and sometimes we would dictate passages of the stories. When we decided to start reading Harry Potter in English during summer vacation, we inverted the amount of pages and a few days later, Klara, Sebastian’s 3 year old sister joined us in our reading sessions.
Let the children pick the next books, turn that trip to the bookstore or library into a hunting adventure! And maybe, why not suggesting they write their own stories and read it together later? Books can be used to work new concepts and ideas, stimulate imagination and abstract thinking and our little ones will only thank us for that! So? Are you ready for the next adventure?

Text and translation: Marina Ramalho